Feeling grateful for friends who are honest about their feelings when I hurt them, even unintentionally. (Thread:)
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I messed up last night & accepted an invitation to an event, forgetting that I had scheduled a call w/ 2 of my best friends 3 time zones away. I felt awful when they texted me to get on the video chat, realizing my mistake. One had traveled to the other's house just for our call.
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I immediately apologized, but they both expressed that they were hurt by my thoughtlessness. I already felt horrible, & it hurt a little to hear– even though I already knew that they had every reason to be hurt– but I was extremely grateful that they were so immediate & honest.
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By expressing their feelings up front, they held me accountable rather than politely telling me that my actions were okay & allowing their frustration to fester. In doing so, they also gave me the opportunity to own up to what I'd done & ask for forgiveness.
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They accepted my apology & forgave me because that's what people who love you do. I still feel a bit guilty– & that's good, it's the proper response for poor behavior & a good motivator for change– but fair better than I would have otherwise.
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This will probably strike most as a silly & obvious lesson, but it was a good reminder for me about the importance of honesty in uncomfortable situations, humility in the acknowledgment of personal misdeeds, & the grace of asking for and receiving forgiveness.
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It’s not silly at all. I don’t think it’s obvious to most people either. 💛