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The more I think about this thread, the more I think it’s probably one of the most important things currently on Twitter. Large populations of lonely, celibate people isn’t socially or economically good in any scenario. It’s more likely to be really, really bad.

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Samuel Hammond

@hamandcheese

Jan 3, 2019

David Autor's work shows the falling status of men relative to women in the same age cohort, particularly non-college educated men, has contributed to declining male labor force participation, less family formation and a host of other social problems. There's no need for snark. twitter.com/drvolts/status…

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Sara Bollman

@SaraBollman

Jan 6, 2019

Failure to see this as much greater than petty competition between genders indicates an incredibly poor understanding of the basic human need for connectedness, on both practical/existential levels + subsequent impact on individual/societal well-being when connections fall apart.

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@amymastrine

i don’t think fewer families is actually a problem in the overall sense. Our population sure isn’t in trouble. Categorizing these things as an problem is what seems to be the real problem. It seems to me the people having kids are a lot more conscious.

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I think fewer families could be a problem in the overall sense for the basic reason that life w/o meaning or connection to others/community is the most obvious cause of depression. Families are good for connection & children are good at providing a sense of purpose.

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Sure, humans have plenty of other options for having these needs met, but few are proactive about exploring them, especially if already unfulfilled. Chasing a fancy career might feel exciting in your 20s; population-wise, the vast majority hate their work & find no meaning.

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This is a problem for women more than men, obviously, because fertility.

5:30 PM · Jan 8, 2019Twitter for iPhone

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and

Yes. It’s a rough one. Having grieved my unborn children and being 2.5 months from 50 and having 2 miscarriages, believe me when i say: i understand. Didn’t find a partner at the right time to pro-create. Sad reality.

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and

But also, undoubtedly, as someone who has always earned more than my male counterparts in relationship, i think this is also partly about the feminist movement and being a career oriented gal with a degree in comp sci in 1991. Very progressive.

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Ya- I think women of your generation got the short of the stick in some ways. 😞 The internet changes everything. I can realistically imagine having children AND some kind of part-time, remote career w/o having to be away from them 40+ hrs/wk. That wasn’t always an option.

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