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10:02 PM · Jan 6, 2019Twitter for iPhone

Failure to see this as much greater than petty competition between genders indicates an incredibly poor understanding of the basic human need for connectedness, on both practical/existential levels + subsequent impact on individual/societal well-being when connections fall apart.

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20th century sociology contributed tons of great work (research + theory) in this area. So did anthropology, psych, and even some economic history. From what I’ve seen, much of this isn’t taught anymore, or is glossed over as historical literature to PhD students only.

Back to the issue of gender: The point a lot of people seem to miss is that mismatch in dating/marriage markets is bad for women too. Unless we assume that women aren’t *also* susceptible to unhappiness when celibate and alone like men are, nobody is winning here.

To be glib, I don’t imagine that the knowledge of having out-earned their male counterparts is going to offer much consolation to a hoard of 45 y.o. childless cat ladies who 15 years earlier were patting themselves on the back for out-statusing men instead of partnering w/ them.

Similarly, I don’t imagine that the knowledge of having “owned” feminists on/offline is going to offer consolation to a hoard of 45 y.o. jobless & disenfranchised males who 15 years earlier gave up even trying to get women/status bc they were convinced the system had been rigged.