If every incel somehow got a girlfriend, the net violence in the world would only go up. Because guys who think like this are violent to their girlfriends. It's not their singleness that's dangerous; it's the way they think about women.
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I had to learn it this week too ... involuntary celibacy - men who can't get women to have sex with them. (Feel like vomiting) apparently the van driver killer in Canada was an incel and that incited his attack.

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I should clarify. "Incel" is a specific group, not all involuntarily celibate men. Incels have entitled and violent beliefs about women. I don't know too much on it yet and maybe that's a good thing!

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"Incel" was actually coined by a woman who ran a blog & semi-support group for people regardless of gender who were celibate but didn't want to be, and acknowledged that often it's about learning social skills (among other reasons). Then misogynists hijacked it & became men only.
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This is a thing that frustrates me. I’ve read how “incel” was also used and useful in the trans community. I can recall uses of the phrase “friend zone” that did not accuse women (but which were about the idea of self-presentation).
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I think there are many mentally ill or socially challenged people for whom it is useful to acknowledge some basic principles with or about. One is that they need to be attteactive and explicitly ask out people appropriately, which is hard.
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But explicitly asking questions is key to affirmative consent. Also: many people’s awkwardness or status (esp. financial class, trans, etc) can interfere with ability to form relationships. Relevant to not just dudes but disadvantaged PoC, single moms. Celibacy snowballs.
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Yes, trans or gender non-conforming ppl can have trouble finding partners even if they have good social skills, esp in small towns or remote areas, as can physically disabled, mentally ill, autistic, socially awkward or low self-esteem folks, or folks in tough situations. Not…
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everyone who is involuntarily celibate for long periods is misogynist or dangerous to partners, and all deserve to have a supportive community, just preferably not one that encourages hostility, objectification, and violence as the ones using "incel" label now so.
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It's supposed to mean people too nasty to get a girlfriend, but twitter; as usual, has twisted it to mean "person I don't like".
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I'm just hearing of it, gross. But it's got me thinking about something we all do on FB; we all look at classmates profiles to see who they end up with, who finally came out of the closet etc. And we all look at the photos & nod, yeah, I knew that jock would end up with a trophy.
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For a truly horrifying experience, you can read about the incel subculture here: http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com Futrelle has been following it for years.
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And I just learned about this now thanks to your Tweets
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