Part of the problem is this delusion some women have that they can hang out with men and "just be one of the guys." Reality: you aren't one of the guys. They don't see you that way and never will. They act differently when you're not around. Guaranteed.
That is exactly in keeping with the Scout Code, after all. No wonder scout numbers are falling — most parents want their sons to grow up to be me, not sad incel harassers.