Many guys in the area go out to beers with industry buddies & bond. They don't explicitly exclude me, I could come, but I'll always feel out of place with a bunch of dudes chugging beer. I've started going to cute brunches with powerful ladies & feel I now have the equivalent.
One thing that would help: choose a bar where bartenders & bouncers are known to watch out for and not tolerate harassment and that's friendly to all gender identities & orientations. But there are still lots of ppl that won't be inclusive to.