It's a discussion I want to have, with you, and I purposefully kept it out of Coraline's mentions to avoid it being seen as antagonistic. I honestly, earnestly, do not understand, and would like you to explain why this attitude is ok. I'm open to changing my mind.
If someone says this, it doesn't mean all straight people are abusive. It means they've been hurt sufficiently badly, or sufficiently many times, by things individual straight people have done, intentionally or unknowningly, in a context of heteronormativity, that...
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...the pattern is relevant to their self-care/self-defense. And, being in a context of heteronormativity, stating the pattern is not creating any side-effect of disadvantage/harm/threat-of-safety to other straight people who were not the ones responsible for the harm.
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With the roles reversed (but still the heteronormative context), there would be no systemic/normalized harm, at most very individualized acts of harm, and trying to state that as a pattern would further systemic disadvantage/harm/threats to the group as a whole.
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