Reagan GomezOvjeren akaunt

You didn’t think forgiveness should come before someone asks for it? Is forgiveness for them or is it for you? Just FYI I agree behavior should change

Aye man, we’re all figuring out life before we die. Who knows. What I do know? Parents for far 2 long have been protected by “obey/respect thy mom/dad” while doing horrific shit to their children 4 far 2 long. Let them do the heavy lifting in healing the bonds w/adult children.

This part.

Mmhmm. Folks seem to skip that part. How you gone forgive somebody who hasn’t asked for your forgiveness lol. Seems like more emotional labor for YOU lol

People can choose to forgive if they want, but nobody is entitled to be forgiven;especially if they haven’t shown remorse for their actions and desire to do better.

Once you realize that your parents are literally just like you, young adults who had kids & most of them had no idea what they were doing but dealing with their own truama and making sure you don’t die! You see them in a different light and forgiveness comes naturally

I’m hoping forgiveness comes naturally because, 1, those parents realized the error in their ways & 2, they don’t want you to repeat the same cycles they taught you & want better for you. That comes with being vulnerable w/your children & doing better.

While working in group homes in LA/ATL, I realized this statement to be true. I was conditioned to tell the youth in the homes about forgiving their parents, but, later understanding that parents needed to apologized for some behaviors.

And change said behavior.