“passionate love can be traumatic”
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Positive trauma is a thing. Peak experiences can warp a person's whole life story.
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what does “trauma” mean in this context?
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Petition to replace 95% of discussions of trauma with discussions of technical debt
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i don’t understand this but i would like to. can u explain pls
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"technical debt" is a term uses to refer to, basically, tangled messes of coping strategies people develop in response to stuff in their lives, that might kinda work okay but be clunky, rigid, wasteful, imprecise, kinda like spaghetti code
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i've gotten a lot out of thinking in these terms and i think specifically what i like about using this concept instead of "trauma" is i think trauma primes people to think about what happened to them but technical debt focuses on what they did in *response*, how they compensated
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it also offers a specific vision of what getting "untangled" is like: you don't necessarily acquire the capability to do anything you couldn't already do but you do it more smoothly, with less suffering, using fewer internal resources, and have more energy for other things
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i think a pretty good example is motivating yourself to do stuff with internal coercion, punishment, etc. it can work but it's clunky and has side effects. and you can imagine the difference between doubling down on this vs. trying to rewrite your own motivation architecture