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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
small talk is literally just foreplay guys. you gotta warm people up to interactions. sometimes you can do it *very quickly* but you still *do it*, you don't just jam your conversational penis in immediately, so to speak
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Sasha Chapin
@sashachapin
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Richard is a much smarter man than I and I like him a lot and I could not disagree more Small talk is supposed to be banal to some degree because you’re sidelining content to implicitly establish boundaries and emotional tone What do you do is a perfect question for this twitter.com/RichardMCNgo/s…
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
small talk is about establishing trust at the monkey level. you can try all you want to start conversations like "so what are your biggest dreams and childhood traumas" or whatever but inevitably some people will be like "why the fuck should i tell you" and they're right
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
i think what sucks the most about asking "so what do you do?" is when you don't actually give a shit about the answer; people can tell and it doesn't feel good. so ask questions you're actually curious about. "so what are you doing here at this event?" is one of my standbys
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
should’ve linked this first, alas
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Mrs C 🪷
@captain_mrs
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small talk isn't about the contents of the chat it's about creating a social vehicle to exchange non-verbal signals of enjoyment of each others presence with someone you wouldn't be interacting with otherwise
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
ooh
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rosalind 𓅮
@wholebodyprayer
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Small talk is fine because people themselves are not at all small, & while we bathe in their presence we make these little cute irrelevant noises about each other like piglets grunting Only when we’re numb to presence do we demand “depth experiences” from others through language
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