starting to make a distinction between taking care of myself from a place of tenderness vs taking care of myself from a place of perfecting/improving and presenting
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• eating healthy to look good vs eating healthy cus i care about my body, want it to feel good and to be nourished
• sleeping well to be productive & be in a good mood so i’m likeable vs sleeping well because i want myself to have stable emotional experiences, to rest + heal
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• going for walks so i can feel better about myself vs going on walks because i know i find a lot of joy in them. and in squirrels
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i can simplify it to:
am i doing this to get something from others (approval, appearance, love etc) or am i doing it to give myself something?
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or as always: am i being the equivalent of a good parent to myself?
am i the parent who’s taking care of their kid to make them into the ideal child™️ or the one who is loving them regardless
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thoughts brought to you by the late night realisation that i’d stopped taking good care of myself over the last weeks
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