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“logical arguments” esp. as applied to emotional topics are full of gaps if you try even a little bit to find them. mountains of unstated assumptions, mostly made unconsciously, that only escape looking patently ridiculous because people never bother to state them precisely

“logically i shouldn’t feel this way in this situation” why not? what unstated assumptions are you making about how emotions are supposed to work? why do you think they work that way? do they appear to work that way?

there’s nothing “logical” about pretending the world works a different way than it does. when i pay attention to the way my emotions actually work on their own terms they make plenty of sense. it may not be a familiar form of sense but there is plenty of deep structure there

“getting in touch with your feelings” makes it sound like a soft weak thing but becoming aware of the gap between what you really feel and what you think you should feel, what seems right or proper to feel, what a good or moral person would feel, can be radically destabilizing

May 10

in the direction of providing actionable advice, the #1 thing i do to make sense of my emotions is assume they're coming from younger parts of me executing strategies i learned to protect myself earlier in life. there's plenty of logic and sense there, in its own way

12:37 AM · May 10, 2022Twitter Web App

these young parts often don't understand that you've grown up, that you're not in the same kind of danger that you were as a child, that you're stronger and have more resources now; they can have all sorts of "crazy" beliefs that you aren't consciously aware of

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