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people wrote about feeling depressed, feeling suicidal, feeling heartbroken, not knowing who they were, looking forward to college, dreading college (b/c they’d lose their friends), how much they loved their friends, how much they loved their lovers even if they weren’t together

someone wrote about feeling suicidal but eventually finding reasons to “stay” (😭) and asking the reader to be proud of them because nobody else could do it because nobody else could know (😭😭)

what really got me wasn’t just the pain that all these people were in, it was that the pain was *secret*. there’s an extra layer of pain to not having anyone in your life you can talk to about how much pain you’re in

i felt grateful for bio-emotive and my other practices. i know what it’s like to feel like there’s a pain so deep it defines your entire life and i am lucky to have found ways to move through pain like that, to grieve fully, to come out the other side. i want that for everyone

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(and if that sounds like something you might need there’s a six-week bio-emotive course starting in a few days - this stuff pretty much saved my life, i wouldn’t shill it like this unless i really believed in it)

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i also felt grateful for twitter. sometimes i think the main impact i have on other people through my writing is just showing other people that it’s possible to talk about things that people don’t believe it’s possible to talk about

what drew me to twitter initially was the same kind of thing - people were talking quite frankly about spirituality and magic and all these other topics i didn’t feel like i could talk openly about in the rationality community, it was such an incredible relief

one of my all-time favorite things to hear in a conversation is “i’ve never told anyone this before” - it’s an honor to be the first person someone feels comfortable enough to share their secrets with, to hear something that’s needed to be heard for years or decades

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people are terrified that if they’re too vulnerable and honest then other people will reject them. i’m not saying that doesn’t happen but ime mostly what happens is other people feel relieved b/c you’ve given them permission to be vulnerable and honest too

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i can’t stand the idea of living in a world where people carry painful secrets in their hearts for decades and then just die. i’m grateful to all of you who’ve shared your own secrets, with me or on here or with trusted friends. thank you 🙏 thicketforte.com/2019/04/14/hel