reverse when-harry-met-sally thesis where only men and women can be friends b/c then intrasexual competition doesn’t get in the way
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poll: what’s your ~gender | what ~gender do your closest friends tend to be?
- ~m | ~m54.1%
- ~m | ~f26.1%
- ~f | ~f9.4%
- ~f | ~m10.4%
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almost all of my best friends have been girls. thinking about this tweet
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regarding the oxytocin-autism thing
i wonder (idly with no evidence) whether this might be behind the phenomenon of mild autists being much more able to be friends with the opposite sex
mild attraction -> oxytocin bump -> at last able to socially connect
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can't answer this one easily because i feel like i have both male and female close friends, and the form of the friendship is so different in both cases, apples to oranges
m friendships more abt reliability and shared activity. f friendships more abt emotion and sharing.
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huh which direction?
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I answered f|f, but this is somewhat confounded by my use of the conventional “friends” which means ppl I’m close to but not romantically involved w. Have had several close male friends but more often than not in the context of dating!
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Used to be ~100% f/f, switched to ~80% f/m when I met the rationalists.
Interesting pattern: I go to my close female friends about more stuff, but I'm more willing to have hard conversations / give feedback to close male friends. So there's more trust in there, in a way.
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That's quite a difficult poll, since mine are almost 50/50 split. Each one kinda feels like a slightly different aspect of my personality.