When someone rubs me the wrong way I’m surprised by how often it turns out that they’re subconsciously reminding me of something that bugs me about myself. So although I’m a damn good catch I’m not sure how that would go. I’d love to try it tho!
hmm also we haven't talked around here about using judgments as an opportunity to probe your own shadow material in awhile, so here is an oldie but goodie, from robert bly's "a little book on the human shadow"
https://buddhism-for-vampires.com/hunting-the-shadow…