so ive been playing around with IPF and honestly i feel like the concepts of parents is too loaded and complex? I'm not sure i see the benefit of splitting Self into two masculine and feminine figures, when self can do both their jobs just fine? very open to changing my mind tho
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part of the claim as i understand it is that you actually do - there's a sort of P vs. NP claim that if you're capable of recognizing good parenting then you must have a copy of good parenting in your system somewhere to compare it to
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in the attachment repair course we were given actually a description of what an ideal parent is supposed to do which i found surprisingly helpful. here are the "five elements of secure attachment" (i was most surprised by "unconditional support for exploration")
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i also found reading the beginning of preconquest consciousness inspirational
ranprieur.com/readings/preco
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sometimes i like to imagine twenty giant naked ideal mothers inspired by this. just a whole buffet of skin-to-skin contact
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This ties into what I was thinking - the thing that might be lost subsuming IPF roles into Self is along the relational edge - the concept of a separate being for whom you are the center, and that you can receive that dedicated love and attention from someone else, just for you.
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How would something like this work for CPTSD not coming from parents?