one of the wildest things i’ve had to repeatedly relearn is that emotions only feel like they last forever if you resist them
if you open up to them they flow through you like water
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I agree until a specific hard emotion shows up and I’m like okay yeah this is the one exception. Then it turns out it works like all the others and I’m shocked and the cycle repeats
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The four noble truths apply to everything except this specific anger when they get my specific cappuccino wrong and put this specific sugar in it when I said no to the sugar
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it do be like that sometimes huh 😅
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Huge obstacle I had in my own work was a mentor who repeatedly insisted that emotions only last as long as you hold on to them
I was a master of feeling and letting them go, but the same ones arose with powerful charge over and over
Shook my confidence in myself first, then him
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it gets tricky to find good language after a certain point. sometimes it feels to me like there’s a large, fixed, old reservoir of emotion that i have to feel through and it can take awhile but then it’s done. sometimes it feels like the emotions are being “freshly” generated
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if there’s e.g. a *present* threat in my life (abusive partner, that kind of thing) that’s the sort of thing that naturally continually freshly generates anger until dealt with. at some point you hopefully take the hint and find some way to deal with the threat
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i had an anger a few months ago that i could not find the end of in exactly this way and it did not even slightly relax until i put up much firmer boundaries in an ongoing conflict. wondering if this kind of thing is related to your experience at all?
Some ppl are just obsessive, not naming names but it's me
Unconscious processes render the feelings in thought BEFORE they enter consciousness, then trigger cognitive-behavioral loops
You can get underneath them but "letting go" is the wrong stage in the cycle to intervene
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hmm i sorta have a sense of what you mean but could you be more concrete? in coherence therapy there are def things like “i must commit myself to repeatedly generating this feeling in this context or else bad things happen”
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Coming back to this question, yes, I think good boundaries can lower the intensity of some emotional processes to down below conscious awareness, because it's taking away the multiplying effect of anxiety
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