ngl i'm jealous of people who are apparently able to sexualize feeling guilt and shame. how do you do it??? feeling guilt and shame straightforwardly just makes me want to die
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I am guessing that people who appear to be sexualizing it are actually experiencing a fairly different emotional state
Maybe more like “I’m a filthy pervert 😎” as opposed to “I deserve to die”
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Transforming shame & guilt that has arisen this way could be like taking painkillers to treat the pain, and ignoring the cause
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p sure it’s that guilt and shame have become associated with sexual pleasure for them
not sure u would want
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Holy shit I think your comment just helped me grok the developmental angle here and yea it sounds really really bad
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During kinky sexual play, intense feelings are less threatening because the situation feels non-real and fundamentally safe. Lots of healing potential. I understand acting/drama can have the same potential for the same reason.
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its like getting permission to be shameful when you're shamed in that context. for some people..