by “same playing field” i don’t at all mean same magnitude, i mean you can reduce your chronic stress by cutting out chronic stressors of any kind
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Yes, but many will feed the gorilla with the corpses of the marmosets, so I can't earnestly recommend marmoset hunting until the gorilla is dead.
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i've lost track of the metaphor here. can you give an example? i have no idea which of these things you think is the gorilla
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Chronic mental stress is the gorilla. Lots of neurotic people try to cut out smaller external stressors like junk food and cigarettes, and in doing so increase their chronic mental stress enough that they're even worse off.
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ah gotcha, that makes sense
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yup the junk food and cigarettes are load-bearing coping mechanisms. I’m increasingly suspecting that focus on them is actually mistaken and even harmful
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similar to “if being hard on yourself worked, it would’ve worked by now” — if attacking symptoms would’ve resolved the root problem, it would’ve worked by now
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the men's group i was in had a two-pronged approach to this i really admired; there was a dopamine detox where we quit our addictions for 2 weeks, *and* an open offer to support the men in all the uncomfortable feelings that would bring up that the addictions were keeping away
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it's the support that makes the quitting possible i think, otherwise you just go back because you need it and it's the best option you've got. if the support is good enough it becomes your new best option
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this sounds so wonderful
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it worked really well, i legitimately think the structure of the program is brilliant. might take awhile but i plan on writing about my experience in detail