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there’s a whole unfortunate pattern here i wish i had a name for, but stuff like “haha only those cringe losers over there eat healthy / go to therapy / do yoga / lift weights / meditate / do psychedelics / buy crypto so i will not do those things”… anyone have a name for this?

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Sad Champ

@atlaz_chugged

· Apr 11

Replying to @QiaochuYuan and @nibrasibn

I think part of the barrier is seeing people you dont respect (or who you otherwise see yourself as fundamentally different from) rave about it and thinking “yeah thats the type of person it helps”. Unless you identify with them at core, their opinions dont really matter.

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Apr 11

i had to deal with this wrt lifting awhile ago (“only jocks lift”) and it genuinely helped that people on twitter started all talking about lifting (i don’t remember who exactly but iirc

@sashachapin

and

@himbodhisattva

at least?), started feeling more like i could do it

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Apr 11

i guess this is about which behaviors feel egosyntonic (compatible with one's identity / self-image) vs. egodystonic (incompatible) but it'd be nice to have a name for the slightly more specific pattern above en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Egosynton

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Apr 11

like "this behavior (which could potentially be really good for me object-level) is incompatible with my identity b/c i disidentify so strongly with the people most associated with it"

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Apr 11

thereby does one gain power from cringe equanimity

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Sasha Chapin

@sashachapin

· Mar 8

The sacred practice of Cringe Equanimity sashachapin.substack.com/p/the-sacred-p

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

ooh this is nice: "associative diffusion"

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Sad Champ

@atlaz_chugged

· Apr 11

Replying to @atlaz_chugged and @QiaochuYuan

“we introduce a model in which, rather than beliefs or behaviors, the things being transmitted between individuals are perceptions about what beliefs or behaviors are compatible with one another.”

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in the same ballpark: “cruelty leaks”

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Visa

SF (Aug 2-14)

@visakanv

· Nov 23, 2020

58. Cruelty leaks. When you mock and insult others- even if they seem to deserve it- you become, to yourself, a person who mocks and insults others. This happens a lot with smart people who shame others for “being dumb”. They then live in chronic fear of being dumb themselves

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