my suspicion is the people who argue against therapy by saying, “just talk to ur family and friends!” don’t actually talk vulnerably to their family and friends
they’d be singing a different tune if they did
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yeah i’ve never understood this. i think their real objection has to do with dignity. like it feels undignified (to a certain kind of person) to need to pay someone to talk to you, the same way it feels undignified to need to pay someone for sex
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I totally support people going to therapy—I did it for a while and found it very helpful—but I do think I hit a wall bc the relationship seemed too artificial. Now I try to talk vulnerably to my family and friends 🤷🏽♀️
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ayyyyyyy
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Well the other thing is skepticism about whether or not a “therapist” can actually help
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if that was the objection you could ask people you know about their experience with therapists, there are lots of ways to become better informed. if the real objection is about admitting weakness then you will actively refuse to seek out information about how helpful therapy is
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there’s a type of guy who you have to drag kicking and screaming to the doctor; same sort of pattern. unacceptable loss of dignity to admit weakness and a need for help
in healthier communities they would be balanced out by friends or family who could drag them places
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thx for the beautiful articulation
what gets me is: “need to pay someone to talk to you”
they’re confusing talking with emotional work/support. it’s like confusing being able to write a tweet with being a novelist. drastically different lvls of skill
i know you know this tho
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i guess the other half is it seems like being able to talk vulnerably to a close friend who you really like and who likes you seems a lot easier than doing that with someone who isn't selected for those things
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if you want therapy to work, you need someone you vibe with and feel a connection with. you're looking for someone you can tell your deepest darkest secrets to, among other things, after all. if you can't see yourself doing that w that person: time to go. (7/x)
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