maybe this is obvious but the reason socializing is exhausting is because it involves constant modelling of other people which is very cognitively demanding
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you actually don't have to cognitively model anyone in a conversation ever, depending on autism level or w/e you can learn to talk entirely based on vibes
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i tend to think the underlying exhausting thing, besides the raw amount of new significant input to pay attention to, is that most people are constantly suppressing a lot of emotional reactions they have to things in conversation - bits of anger, sadness, fear, etc.
i would sort of fold "constantly cognitively modeling everyone" into this b/c i think the underlying emotion that powers that behavior is a kind of anxious fear of losing track of the conversation, saying the wrong thing, etc.
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it can be actively replenishing to have a conversation with someone in which you can "be entirely yourself," in the sense of not having to suppress any of your reactions to what's happening
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