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one unintuitive thing i've had to adjust to here is that positive experiences and emotions also need to be digested / integrated / expressed like it actually really helps to find someone to just gush to about how much you enjoyed someone or something

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

· Mar 6

1. find any ways you can of digesting / integrating / processing / reflecting on the experience. what did you love, what felt weird, what do you want to remember? journal, tweet, draw, write poetry, talk to a friend, anything this can generate ideas for:

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

idk if this seems obvious to other people but this wasn't something that was ever modeled for me growing up and then i spent a lot of time around depressed rationalists while i was also depressed and forgot that joy was real for awhile so uh getting better though!

11:37 PM · Mar 7, 2022Twitter Web App

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"Gushing feels really good" was obviousish, but "gushing is digestion" wasn't until you said it, which meant I didn't have "gushing is healthy/functional" either. Thanks!

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

nice 🙏

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This makes sense! I think a lot of the struggle just comes from not being able to express strong emotions, and that should include positive ones. Maybe that’s part of why neglect and rejection can be so harmful, it robs you of a place to express joy.

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Mar 8

it do be like that sometimes huh 🥲