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one unintuitive thing i've had to adjust to here is that positive experiences and emotions also need to be digested / integrated / expressed like it actually really helps to find someone to just gush to about how much you enjoyed someone or something

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

· Mar 6

1. find any ways you can of digesting / integrating / processing / reflecting on the experience. what did you love, what felt weird, what do you want to remember? journal, tweet, draw, write poetry, talk to a friend, anything this can generate ideas for:

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Mar 7

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idk if this seems obvious to other people but this wasn't something that was ever modeled for me growing up and then i spent a lot of time around depressed rationalists while i was also depressed and forgot that joy was real for awhile so uh getting better though!

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This is a cool thing ive noticed too - that its very useful to invite people to reflect out loud on positive experience, with specific questions, there can be a sort of bias toward not saying it or worried its bragging or something - or bias to the problematic

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Being able to hold space for someone to gush their passions is a skill, just like holding space for someone to gush their pain

Robbie Palmer

@robjpalmer

Mar 8

I really really appreciate it when someone does that for me And i looove it when I successfully do it for someone else See them lost in the love of the moment

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yeah counterintuitive that single ecstatic events can actually be incredibly harmful if not properly integrated—think about folks that do psychedelics once and then make drugs their entire personality—they've been to the mountaintop but they have no idea what to do with it

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Reminds me of my thread where you said this! What happens to those which aren't digested, integrated, expressed? Stored in the body maybe?

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

· Feb 9

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i've at least had pretty clear experiences of suppressing happiness and joy and laughter; e.g. i was in public and felt like if i laughed as much as i wanted i'd look crazy existential kink suggests a *lot* of pleasure is suppressed because it feels unacceptable also

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Mar 9

i have def had experiences of accessing specific parts of my body and finding tremendous amounts of laughter there which may or may not have been suppressed from previously, not sure how to tell!