some sensory stuff i'm learning i have: i really feel a lot better when i'm clean-shaven, have very short hair, and have recently showered. also remembering i find ties and tight collars unbearable on my neck, and couldn't wear contacts b/c my eyes refused to stay open
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it used to be impossible for anyone to touch me anywhere near my stomach or genitals - i used to say i was "extremely ticklish" - but that's gotten a lot better as i've slowly relaxed more tension around there generally over the last 5 years
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oh hmm, never thought of this as tension related
thanks, will investigate!
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probably also partly that i didn't know how to have or enforce touch boundaries for a long time 😬 childhood experiences of having to submit to being touched by doctors etc.
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This is so interesting! I try to do this exercise where whenever I get tickled I focus on the core of the feeling, expanding my awareness on it, and soon find a lot of tension being released and love being felt. I do this with my gf and it's a great way to foster trust :)