Any tips for a "healthy" way to respond when people ask you to justify your desires?
Person: Do you want to do X?
Me: No
Person: Why not?
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what happens if you shrug and say "I just don't"
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Big mix of responses
Some ppl would tell me that I'm wrong & that I do actually want it, they know better
Some tell me why I should want it
Others berate me for not wanting it
Others would say "fair enough"
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first 3 categories can fuck right off tbh 😤
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Yes I think this is the problem 😂
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Who are these people that are good with boundaries you speak of? 
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fwiw i talk about several different therapy things but what made the biggest difference for me personally wrt boundary-setting and other anxious attachment things was ideal parent figure protocol by a *big* margin
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3. ideal parent figure protocol (IPFP). this stuff is so powerful i'm often scared to do it. i barely did a tiny bit of it awhile back and it made like 30% of my anxious attachment relax. i'm dipping back into it more now and it's amazing
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Awesome thanks QC for targeting this for me!
It's definitely my biggest pain point / place for growth
I have a book I've been reading on boundaries but it hits soo soo deep in such a sensitive spot that I've only made it through a couple of chapters over months
Really helpful tho
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it's incredibly tough stuff, good luck 🙏
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IPFP has stood out for me in the therapy adjacent stuff I see mentioned as something that would be impactful
Like you mention though I'm kinda scared! Think would be so powerful I could get eaten by it
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the first time i tried it i went from normal to almost melting down in like 1 minute. hit something really tender really quickly. needs safeguards 😬
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