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sure, but why state it?
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iirc has a good tweet about how it can be really helpful for people to state things out loud, often as resistance/defiance against the opposite claim
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haha kind of the opposite actually (but also that yes)
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in my experience, both with myself and with clients and friends, admitting the thing out loud expands awareness of the possibility that it might be false. it's very freeing!
otoh it's when you never admit the thing that it has the power to control you and become your reality 
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hm i'm thinking of a different tweet... something like, when a person says X it can be because they've been conditioned to think Not-X
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ah probably this one from earlier in the thread then
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in some cases the shadow statement is where almost all of the content is. when people say things like "oh i can just be nice to myself" that's fighting against a much larger shadow statement, all the ways it's felt true that they can't be nice to themselves
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