googling "oxytocin social salience" gives us a name: this is called the "social salience hypothesis of oxytocin." nice. let's run with it for now
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"oxytocin turns up social salience," to my mind, already strongly suggests why it can't be a miracle cure for anything: it won't do much for you if your social environment *actually sucks*
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oxytocin reddit guy was extremely lucky that he was in what appeared to be a basically happy loving stable marriage already, and it sounds to me like the oxytocin let that sink in at a deeper level: deepened his appreciation for and ability to relate to his wife and kids, etc.
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this is why i find it significant that in the early parts of the account he spends so much time touching, having sex with, staring at, & talking to his wife. that's a lot of reconditioning he can do now that various things about his wife and their relationship are *more salient*
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otoh if your social life kinda sucks, if you feel like the people around you basically don't understand or care about you, if you don't have a partner or you have a bunch of unresolved conflicts with your partner... maybe oxytocin will just highlight that? idk :/
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so, we can't expect oxytocin by itself to do much for people in tough situations socially. the people most likely to benefit might be people with safe happy stable loving social lives who can't seem to really let that stuff in; still feeling unsafe, etc.
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(this is, i want to emphasize again, completely untested speculation on my part)
the next most likely to benefit might be people willing to use the oxytocin to have difficult conversations with the people close to them, and unbury all the buried resentments, hurts, etc.
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and then the next most likely to benefit after that might be people willing to use the oxytocin to have difficult conversations with *themselves*. idk how oxytocin shapes your relationship to yourself but i'd love to know if it makes IFS easier, for example
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if anyone is feeling up for taking on the risks of doing oxytocin self-experimentation and wants to do it solo i would be very interested in seeing people test something like the following:
1) take the oxytocin
2) look at your face in the mirror
3) talk to yourself
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i think talking to your loved ones is likely to be even more powerful if that feels like an option but it might not feel like an option. in conclusion, this all seems enormously complex but i'm still very curious and i still want to hear about people's experiences
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reading 's "deep okayness" post may also be helpful inspiration for any self-experimentation here
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