What's something you learned in the last 24 hours?
(if you need to narrow it down, what is the most life-relevant thing you learned or realized)
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one of the cofounders of Alcoholics Anonymous, Bill Wilson, asked his family for 3 shots of whiskey on his deathbed when he was dying of emphysema, and/but they didn't give it to him. he had been 36 years sober
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that's remarkable, both that he asked, and his family didn't provide... huh. thanks for sharing
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yea if you look it up it's kind of a scissor even in the AA community. some people are like "jeez, if you're about to die, what does it matter" while others are like "no weakness!! good that they protected his legacy" etc
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what i get out of it is just “huh, AA doesn’t work that well”
with better technique imo people wouldn’t even want to on their deathbed
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the whole problem is with framing reaching for the drink as “weakness”; it’s fundamentally an exiling move, you’re othering the part of you that sees the drink as the best or only option for dealing with some shit
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exiling imposes continual costs, you continually need to edit the exile out of your awareness, meanwhile it does not and cannot die, it just skulks in the shadows growing hairy and wild until maybe one day it comes back as you lay dying
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i have no experience with alcoholism per se but i have plenty of addictive tendencies myself and what actually helps me is 1) respecting that a part of me needs the addiction to self-medicate and then 2) dealing with whatever pain i’m attempting to self-medicate
yeah big problem being huuuge variance in addictive tendencies—just had a friend die recently since they had a single drink on NYE and proceeded to accidentally drink themself to death (actual alcohol toxicity is what killed him) over the course of 2 weeks
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oh man yikes sorry to hear that 😔🖤
common thing with people who relapse/overdose on all sorts of things seems to be that they always overestimate their tolerance
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