if there's one thing i've learned from writing about her childcare experiences it's that i really owe it to my hypothetical future wife to repair my relationship with my parents so they can be roped into childcare for our hypothetical future kids
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wonder if this is this something women think about in the dating scene? "yeah he's good at sex and got a big heart but does he also have a good relationship with his parents so they can look after our kid(s) for a weekend"
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ime (and my mom+grandma view it the same - seems to be the wisdom where they're from) there's some gender asymmetry here. Like, I didn't expect at all to for my MIL to get involved with baby raising, and I wouldn't have liked it either. It mom's side that's more involved
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huh interesting. so i should make sure *my wife* has a good relationship with her parents huh 🤔
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yep, that's the implication. I predict going full on in helping my daughters, less my son. Makes sense: this is such intimate a space I couldn't have held it to extent I did w/ anybody else other than mom.On my mother's side being there for daughters when they give birth was huge
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hard yes, but also it's good if you have one. the kind of prtner who values having kids is more likely to look at your relationship with your family and if it is good, see that as favorable
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