3 friends today (independently) told me they've been struggling but are afraid of "emotionally dumping" on me
I've been super struggling the past 2 weeks & have felt stuck, unable to express things in an "emotionally safe" way
Gotta setup some bidirectional dumping
Conversation
can also alternate between dumping (unfiltered venting) and more skillful ways of communicating (eg being a mature adult about it). both modes are differently useful
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When talking with my friends the mature adult perspective keeps being default
Earlier on the phone to one, he approached tentatively & detached observationally
Only when I made it clear I would hold the space could he be more venty
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I struggle to enter venty space too
As inner critic keeps me away from it, justifying why I shouldn't feel that way etc & that tends to be the default words then that come out too
My circle seem to all struggle with the raw expression part far more
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do this now: poke your tongue out between your teeth and talk, tell the story of how your feelings were hurt, in the most blamey pathetic way
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