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I keep talking to people who have been in therapy for years but never received the instruction to extend understanding kindness to their dysfunction ('dysfunction') and it blows my fucking mind It's like we're trying to teach people to swim without using their arms

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Daemonic

@daemonhugger

Jan 20

I'm also shocked at how often I hear such things. Cc

@DougTataryn

@Jeanvaljean689

What the heck is going on? Curious if y'all can shed any light on this.

Bio-Emotive Framework

@DougTataryn

Jan 20

Short version, times have changed and most therapies emerged in a Traditional or Modern culture, where the emphasis was on getting people to function, not on healing or quality of life per se. Self compassion is a Post-Modern notion and recent psychotherapeutic construct.

Sasha Chapin

@sashachapin

Jan 20

I like this explanation but it doesn't seem plausible? By Traditional and Modern culture, do you mean 'culture within the purview of the Western therapeutic tradition?' I think we've been talking about compassion for thousands of years, and discussing the nature of self

Sasha Chapin

@sashachapin

Jan 20

Like the inner act of self-compassion really doesn't seem like something that could've been invented in the last few decades, maybe the linguistic handle but not the thing, it's possible that we've recently tried as hard as possible to lose that wisdom though

Bio-Emotive Framework

@DougTataryn

Jan 20

Yes, within the context of therapy per se. Self-compassion may seem self-obvious to you, it is not for many people. Re: times changing, when I was an undergraduate from 1978-84 I had to HIDE the fact that I was interested in meditation, and I was in the psychology department.

Woah

It was recently pointed out to me that Vajrayana kind of invented IFS a thousand plus years ago, so compassion is maybe a new frame, but I don’t think the act is new at all

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Jan 20

my current crackpot theory is not that self-compassion is new but that self-hatred is, and specifically that it was part of the aftermath of the world wars

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

· Feb 14, 2021

"The result is the empty self, “a self that experiences a significant absence of community, tradition, and shared meaning.... a self that embodies the absences, loneliness, and disappointments of life as a chronic, undifferentiated emotional hunger” (p. 79)."

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