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I keep talking to people who have been in therapy for years but never received the instruction to extend understanding kindness to their dysfunction ('dysfunction') and it blows my fucking mind It's like we're trying to teach people to swim without using their arms
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Short version, times have changed and most therapies emerged in a Traditional or Modern culture, where the emphasis was on getting people to function, not on healing or quality of life per se. Self compassion is a Post-Modern notion and recent psychotherapeutic construct.
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I like this explanation but it doesn't seem plausible? By Traditional and Modern culture, do you mean 'culture within the purview of the Western therapeutic tradition?' I think we've been talking about compassion for thousands of years, and discussing the nature of self
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Like the inner act of self-compassion really doesn't seem like something that could've been invented in the last few decades, maybe the linguistic handle but not the thing, it's possible that we've recently tried as hard as possible to lose that wisdom though
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Yes, within the context of therapy per se. Self-compassion may seem self-obvious to you, it is not for many people. Re: times changing, when I was an undergraduate from 1978-84 I had to HIDE the fact that I was interested in meditation, and I was in the psychology department.
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