me and a lot of people i know sure do love ruining our own lives by making up rules about what we aren't allowed to do and then following them straight into a ditch
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i say this with all the love i can muster 😅 and of course many of the rules were imposed on us by others 😔
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told me recently that the proper term for this is "neurotic" which really makes a lot of sense and i gotta wonder why we mostly stopped using such a useful word
should i start collecting these or would that be rude
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I talk a good game but the everyday reality of my life is almost entirely constrained by an arbitrary network of neuroses & anxieties & self imposed rules & stories of imaginary monsters that rope down almost all choices leaving just enough freedom to wiggle my little finger
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"some things I want to do but consider somehow illegal"
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some things I want to do but consider somehow illegal
• buy an electric guitar
• write a book
• go on a solo vacation
• make a profitable business
• throw stuff in the garbage
• join the Anglican church
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rules about being a girl / woman
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1. being a girl means doing boring things/being excluded from fun things
2. the different things boys and girls can/must do are Extremely Important to people even when they make no sense
3. being female is like being the wrong kind of person
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just never think about sex 5head
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at some point when i was an impressionable young lad i heard some shit like “men think about sex every 7 seconds” and whether this was intended or not i was left with the impression that this was bad, so i decided to never think about sex
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there is this thing where it's great to discover these concepts for yourself, or through a trusted person in a safe context, discover that this applies to you.
but if people label each other as such, it is often not helpful, without compassion, becomes an insult.
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If you’re curious on the “why” from a History of Psychology perspective, this book is a solid start
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tl;dr: families of the mentally ill got sick of Freud blaming them for everything. They formed interest groups, allied w Pharma and Bio-Psych, and got universities to suppress/fire anyone who didn’t say “the brain is just chemicals, family environment is irrelevant to disease”.
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oh boooooooooooo
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not sure how it happened for me but over the last few years I've come to have that word with that meaning available and it's super useful
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I've recently started appreciating & refining a concept of "neurotic" which is a strategy for caring about something that's based on trying to avoid various pitfalls or problems without a clear idea of what "good" looks like.
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