I've gotta un-anchor myself from my kid emotionally more than I do by default
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I guess too strong resonance can be dangerous. Or, like, the kid is very resonant, and needs a firm point the way a guitar string needs a bridge & saddle. Rosa calls it a “stable axis of resonance.” It’s not being mute or cold, it’s providing a ground
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I find that difficult insofar as I myself lack such axes. The Buddhists talk about groundlessness and finding sea-legs on the nebulous chaos of reality… well, I think I need a more sturdy vessel, not to say a lifeboat.
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> finding sea-legs on the nebulous chaos of reality
wait do you have links relevant to this
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the sea-legs term is from this book by reviewed by
I was a bit unfair but that is one of my main complaints that I’m trying to articulate and deal with
sea-legs are also an axis of resonance but, but…
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“We can study the winds and the waves and the stars … guiding our ships into calmer waters where we can gaze at the sea and the sky and watch fish play.”
I love this, but I keep feeling like there’s something missing
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it's a nice image but it like doesn't take place in a society? someone had to build that ship, someone had to supply that ship
yes! maybe it’s like DIY religion, often very strongly critical of the established ones that have churches, which is good and necessary, but, like, I don’t have time to order novel cutting edge rituals from AliExpress and try to assemble them in my home lab
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anyway I don’t want to be too critical, I appreciate all this stuff a lot and it’s been formative for me and I just find myself with a particular reaction to it from my own current perspective
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