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this is perhaps only the kind of thing you need if you were punished as a child by being forced to hold your body still in an uncomfortable position for long periods of time, or similar 🙃🙃🙃

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Jan 4

finally this tweet is topical again, it’s been awhile old friend

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

· Nov 13, 2019

hey remember how we went to school where we spent 8 hours a day for over a decade having what our bodies could do completely under the control of authority figures boy i wonder if that had any lasting effects

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Jan 4

funnily enough it is impossible for me to go straight to crying using just “allowing” and nothing else even if i am very sad, i have no idea why. the tears don’t quite come unless i either name some feelings or wail loudly, depending. both is even better

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Jan 4

lol someone just reminded me what the actual origin story is, i learned how to do this from a practice a tantra guy suggested to me of masturbating without orgasm every day. sexual energy kept building up until it was unbearable and i could “release” it into shaking

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

· Jan 4

i learned how to do this fairly suddenly, iirc around 2018 and inspired by impro but i might be misremembering, and actually trotted it out as a party trick a few times b/c the results were so funny to me. shaking, almost-crying, insane laughing. i have no idea how to teach it

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Jan 5

another modality that calls it "discharging," that's a pretty good name too. and this chart is *so* interesting. i get laughter a lot so seeing that it can indicate boredom, light anger, or light fear is... interesting 😅

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grasshopper friends

@grassyfndz

· Jan 4

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

do you know RC / co-counseling? it calls what you're describing (laughing/shaking/crying) "discharge" & it's viewed as a central part of processing emotions rc.org/publication/bo (website is awful but the practice is super interesting)

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Jan 5

followup thread about the sexual practice

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

· Jan 5

okay so i've been asked for more details about the sexual practice i mentioned the other day. in short, the practice is to masturbate for ~20m without porn and without allowing yourself to ejaculate, just paying attention to sensation twitter.com/desirepaths_/s…

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Jan 5

also wow the co-counseling link above has some good stuff, here's a few choice quotes. interesting claim here that "discharges" happen in a specific order: grief (tears), then fears (trembling, shivering, laughter), anger (loud words, movement), boredom (talking, laughter)