It also helps to know that you will screw things up in trying to implement non-coercion (I struggle with it a LOT with my kids).
Not setting a high standard for yourself it get everything right perfectly, immediately, is a gentler, non-coercive attitude to non-coercion.
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The bit I struggle with is, I believe there are techniques that can unlock the ability to more frequently live by means of non-coercion
But I find it very hard to non-coercively start 😅
I imagine this is an issue of patience
Waiting for non-coercive opportunities to arise
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Yeah I think I might put this differently now. I think there is some amount of coercion at first, but the goal is to be "relatively non-coercive" compared to your existing methods.
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Oh yeah this is good. Someone was asking me about this the other day because there's a Sutra where the Buddha recommends you "Beat Down, Constrain, and Crush" unwholesome thoughts.
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They asked how I view that in relation to non-coercion, and my response is that sometimes, your mind is in such a state that beating down, constraining, and crushing is the most self-loving non-coercive thing you can do. It's more coercive to make certain actions off-limits.
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I actually don’t think there’s anything coercive about crushing unwholesome thoughts, as long as we don’t identify with the thoughts themselves.
The thought is not the “part” (in the IFS sense). We should be gentle with the part that holds the thought, though.
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ah the shame of replying to tweets on the TL out of context lol
*head down because you already said what i chimed in with* 😅
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But you said it in your own way
🤜🏻💥🤛🏻
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Don't encourage this or I'll start replying to everyone's tweets just rephrasing what they said 🤣
2022 challenge: 100 rephrased tweets
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i think this would be amazing fwiw!