Ohhh, I just realized that most of the pushback against non-coercion is that people feel like they're being coerced into it.
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Is there a way to learn non-coercion without coercing yourself into the learning?
Given you can't non-coerce yourself into non-coercion if you don't know how to non-coerce
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I think everyone knows non-coercion to some degree, given our familiarity with coercion and how badly that works out for us.
The point is to not feel obligated to accept anything as true or comply to external pressures because expectation can be coercive. 😊
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It also helps to know that you will screw things up in trying to implement non-coercion (I struggle with it a LOT with my kids).
Not setting a high standard for yourself it get everything right perfectly, immediately, is a gentler, non-coercive attitude to non-coercion.
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The bit I struggle with is, I believe there are techniques that can unlock the ability to more frequently live by means of non-coercion
But I find it very hard to non-coercively start 😅
I imagine this is an issue of patience
Waiting for non-coercive opportunities to arise
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Yeah I think I might put this differently now. I think there is some amount of coercion at first, but the goal is to be "relatively non-coercive" compared to your existing methods.
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What’s an example of this?
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so a redo-to-undo example might be, say you got really used to forcing yourself to do homework in school, and have some residual stuff from that. you might want to go back to that experience, redo it, and that would involve putting yourself back in that forcing situation
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As in go back to school or do homework again or..?
I’m curious specifically about what gets redone, and to what extent it resembles the old thing (since it won’t be exact).
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yeah idk i think it can vary a lot. i *think* it could be having a vivid dream, could be vividly imagining it awake, could be making yourself do work and imagining it's homework, could be roping someone else into play-acting as a teacher...???