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i start off instantly attracted to women i consider physically attractive, but i lose this for a lot of people over time depending on their personality even if i like them as friends. does this describe you?

i am a man and yes
52.6%
i am a man and no
25.3%
i am a woman and yes
7.5%
i am a woman and
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

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@sunofdopamine

one confusion i've had trying to talk and think about this is what exactly "attraction" means. like eg i am basically incapable of meeting a woman and instantly getting hard, or even instantly feeling blood rush to my genitals

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

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for me i have to establish some baseline rapport and emotional safety first. but i've asked guys what they mean by being attracted to a woman they've just met and they say more like fascination, feeling drawn to, wanting to talk to

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Jan 5

and the explicitly sexual stuff sort of comes online later. now this is an experience i *have* had but i no longer believe it is necessarily or particularly romantic or sexual!

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@sunofdopamine

Jan 5

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Hard to prevent awareness from collapsing onto that person?

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@sunofdopamine

Jan 5

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@QiaochuYuan

It's like being in a cave and there's a diamond