Ohhh, I just realized that most of the pushback against non-coercion is that people feel like they're being coerced into it.
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Is there a way to learn non-coercion without coercing yourself into the learning?
Given you can't non-coerce yourself into non-coercion if you don't know how to non-coerce
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I think everyone knows non-coercion to some degree, given our familiarity with coercion and how badly that works out for us.
The point is to not feel obligated to accept anything as true or comply to external pressures because expectation can be coercive. 😊
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It also helps to know that you will screw things up in trying to implement non-coercion (I struggle with it a LOT with my kids).
Not setting a high standard for yourself it get everything right perfectly, immediately, is a gentler, non-coercive attitude to non-coercion.
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The bit I struggle with is, I believe there are techniques that can unlock the ability to more frequently live by means of non-coercion
But I find it very hard to non-coercively start 😅
I imagine this is an issue of patience
Waiting for non-coercive opportunities to arise
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i’ve had to be extremely patient yeah. up to and including doing apparently almost nothing for months
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Did it feel like nothing at the time?
Does it look like nothing looking back?
Was it lots of internal processing required to lay a foundation?
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it didn’t feel like nothing at the time or now but i would not have been able to justify this to a skeptical third party at the time. i was like trying out a lot of tiny moves because they were all that felt available. like slowly worming my way out of a trap
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liek dis
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sometimes it feels like i'm trapped in a straitjacket constricting almost all of my degrees of motion, and i can like only wiggle my pinky, metaphorically speaking. and so i've pondered quite a lot how to get out of this sort of trap
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