Ohhh, I just realized that most of the pushback against non-coercion is that people feel like they're being coerced into it.
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Is there a way to learn non-coercion without coercing yourself into the learning?
Given you can't non-coerce yourself into non-coercion if you don't know how to non-coerce
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I think everyone knows non-coercion to some degree, given our familiarity with coercion and how badly that works out for us.
The point is to not feel obligated to accept anything as true or comply to external pressures because expectation can be coercive. 😊
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It also helps to know that you will screw things up in trying to implement non-coercion (I struggle with it a LOT with my kids).
Not setting a high standard for yourself it get everything right perfectly, immediately, is a gentler, non-coercive attitude to non-coercion.
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The bit I struggle with is, I believe there are techniques that can unlock the ability to more frequently live by means of non-coercion
But I find it very hard to non-coercively start 😅
I imagine this is an issue of patience
Waiting for non-coercive opportunities to arise
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Yeah I think I might put this differently now. I think there is some amount of coercion at first, but the goal is to be "relatively non-coercive" compared to your existing methods.
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Ooh yes, I like the idea of the new force being a sort of necessary evil to counteract the existing force
My instinct before would've been equal & opposite to make it net neutral but definitely seems to be the wrong framing, & this gentler nudge to get over the friction is closer
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yeah equal-and-opposite is a coarse picture. i guess it’s like force can produce weird tangly shapes that might require other force to untangle. but one can perhaps skillfully figure out a way to use much less than was used to create it
More skill & more focus not more force
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