I'm highly sensitive to reality distortion fields.
I underwent some prolonged experiences of mental invasion and intense psychological influence (as some of you now know, I guess-- weird), so, understandably, I became hyper-attuned to subtle undue impact on my thinking.
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This means I notice when I feel weirdly good (or bad) around someone in an extreme way, suddenly seduced, manic, or super-powered, feel trapped in their frame, or hold extremely different beliefs about myself or them while I'm with them that I don't hold once I've had time away.
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The specifics vary on the person, but it's usually accompanied by a distinct feeling of being off-center, unable to fully make decisions, or not totally online. It can feel like having my priorities, sense of identity, realness or importance suddenly shift dramatically.
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For background-- my model is that reality distortion fields occur when someone convincingly, implicitly offers a high-value promise of something most people deeply want, especially a sort of subconscious egoic fantasy...
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Thought-provoking! This is a topic I'm interested in learning more about. I feel like IFS parts tend to get stuck in idealized masks. And their delta from reality produces shadows, leading to all sorts of problematic dynamics with other parts with or without masks of their own
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Idealization can be like introducing crack to the internal family system. Our media landscape is generally completely poisonous in this sense
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yes! richard schwartz talks about this in You Are The One You've Been Waiting For (which is about applying IFS to relationship stuff specifically), sadly not one of the chapters i posted excerpts from on twitter
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legal free link to the intro and chapter 1 here, i think the thing i'm thinking of is in chapter 2 or 3
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this valentine's day please give yourself the gift of this free sample of richard schwartz's IFS relationship book, "you are the one you've been waiting for"
thread of choice quotes (all of this is from the introduction and first chapter alone)
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yeah here it is, it's the beginning of chapter 2, "the magical kitchen metaphor"
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“So where can you find the... magical kitchen—a boundless fountain of love from which your parts can draw? It’s in the last place you would ever think to look: your Self.”
screw vday, i’m gifting this book to myself right now
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it is really wild you will not regret it!