IFS protectors can be like those japanese soldiers on isolated islands years after the end of WWII who kept fighting b/c they didn’t know the war was over. what they need is to be told, gently, that the war is over (if it is indeed over)
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not the source i had in mind but i’ve heard good things about loch kelly
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Loch Kelly has a whole thing on conceiving of the ego (/sense of self we commonly experience / identify with in our heads) as an IFS part in The Way of Effortless Midnfulness lochkelly.org/way-of-effortl. I believe it's a chapter.
Kelly & Richard Schwartz have done some collabs too
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> the Dalai Lama tilted his head, his eyes narrowed in confusion. “Self-hatred?” he repeated in English. “What is that?”
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Brings to mind this story I heard about the @DalaiLama (wow, he's on twitter, wonder if he can confirm that this really happened 
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i still haven't found the original blog post but i did find a minute-long video from richard schwarz
> “the Ego isn’t your enemy - it is a bunch of protective, manager parts that is necessary to try to keep you safe.”
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people think i've done a lot of IFS because of how warmly i talk about it here but actually i've barely done any at all. IFS for me is mostly about having a really respectful conceptual framework that avoids what i see as disrespectful conceptual mistakes in other frameworks
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i just blend with the parts and let them yell now 😛
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then i unblend and talk back sometimes is that better? 😅
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any specific tips for me? i know you've mentioned experimenting and improvising on your own here
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i have gotten a ton of mileage out of identifying two different parts with opposing goals, bringing them into the same room, & starting by asking if they're willing to acknowledge each others existance. its some Israel and Palestine shit up in here somedays
but they end up hugn
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