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poll: gut feeling, are you more afraid of death or of total social exclusion, everyone thinking you're bad and hating you and avoiding you forever

death worse
34.3%
social death worse
46.5%
about the same
11.3%
idk / result
7.9%

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

Dec 25, 2021

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hugslut is in recovery

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@smallkewlhuman

· Dec 25, 2021

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fear of being excluded or unloved is pretty powerful huh

QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)

@QiaochuYuan

for me personally i find that physical death is not really real to me as a possibility, i can't really conceive of it so it's not even a possible target for fear. whereas social exclusion is, yes, very scary, very real and alive for me 😬

4:40 AM · Dec 25, 2021Twitter Web App

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judah (recovering ideas man)

@joodaloop

Dec 25, 2021

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true that social exclusion is painful as heck tho

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judah (recovering ideas man)

@joodaloop

· Dec 25, 2021

the toughest mfs you know wouldn't last 5 seconds in a room full of people they admire and want to impress, all laughing at them

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I think I've come to conceptualize it as a limit of injury or unhealth. I think more about the capacities that I might lose (especially dementia and injuries to my fingers, but also digestive, breathing etc). That feels very real, and death is when I've lost too much to live

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Exact opposite for me — my personal mental and professional security is extremely strong in large part because I don’t fear social death

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wait another twenty years and ask yourself again tbh

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idgi, i've had periods of total alienation but that's just like, life. comes and goes. the idea of like "100% nobody will ever give you the time of day anywhere on the planet forever" is significantly more far-fetched than real death, which is a daily occurrence