if being joyful and silly is childish then sign me up for preschool bc tf i look like spending my life unhappy & boring when it’s within my capabilities to be otherwise 🤔🤔
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hell yeah! ❤️🔥 a surprising thing i didn’t anticipate when writing my book is how much the fear of childishness, frivolity, *keeps* repeatedly cropping up as a thing that hinders people’s development towards greater integration
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wow! crazy how widespread that is. where do you think it comes from?
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Basically what Joe said– and school and media and peer pressure etc etc layers upon layers of projections and hallucinations and fears. Takes very little mockery to terrorize an entire system
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fear of being excluded or unloved is pretty powerful huh 😅
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social brain basically considers it death!
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ime it's much much much scarier than death. which is confusing 🧐
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people say pretty clearly that they would rather die than risk certain kinds of looking too weird to other people and i'm inclined to take them fairly literally
it's poll time
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poll: gut feeling, are you more afraid of death or of total social exclusion, everyone thinking you're bad and hating you and avoiding you forever
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they invented crew resource management precisely because thats not just a stated preference, it's a revealed preference:
people would rather die in fiery airplane crashes than be assertive in socially awkward/disapproved ways to their fellow crew while trying to avoid such fates
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i vaguely remembered something like this but totally forgot the details, wild that there's a whole wikipedia article about this
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