the amount of healing i do seems negatively correlated with my ability to relate to my parents and this hurts a lot
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the polyvagal curve stuff says that the process of breaking out of freeze involves passing through fight / flight; that means, somewhat counterintuitively, that going from feeling frozen towards your parents to feeling viciously angry and hateful is an *improvement*
Yeah it does loop around eventually, though if you've really put time into healing there will be a new gap wherein you see their unresolved shit thoroughly
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Oooh wow. I just went from frozen to furious recently and thought I’d regressed
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furious means thawing! good luck 🙏
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i don't feel angry and hateful (most of the time at least)... i guess it feels like this chasm opened up between us and i'm squinting and waving to them across it
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A possible explanation, but all progress I've made with meditation, IFS, etc has been quite detrimental to interpersonal relationships. And it has nothing to do with this...
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what does it have to do with?
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Oh, the ANS states in the PSIP model look so similar to the polyvagal curve.
You found the polyvagal model helpful? Any resources you'd recommend to check it out?
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6/ Defense cascade: escalating involuntary defensive reactions of the ANS.
State-0: Calm, no threat.
State-1: Vigilant, stress, no immediate danger.
Transition is *involuntary*.
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idk anything about the polyvagal stuff in general i just really like the chart
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