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i tried imagining my ideal future and it was "i'm on the beach and all my ex-girlfriends love me again" which... 🤔
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Just met husband’s mom. In the last few months she lost 30lbs, practiced yoga daily without a single miss, quit carbs, started learning English, and is now on her way to quitting smoking. Her secret? Every day on commute she imagines her ideal future in vivid detail.
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idk like i actually don't know how to relate to this. a lot of the things i want seem like 1) they would be socially destructive for me to actually try to get and 2) seem symbolic of other stuff / pretty much about psychodrama anyway
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i think it was right and good of me to slow down and be like "wtf is going on" and try to untangle some of those confusions but it's been years and meanwhile i've like banned myself from going after what i want which...? maybe time to stop doing that a bit??? idk man
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like look. some people follow their dreams all the way to starting a cult and doing incredible amounts of damage to a bunch of other people and it matters to me that i don't fuck up that badly
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this is a live and fresh confusion for me, i literally have zero answers, i am just asking the universe "which things are acceptable to want, which things are acceptable to try to get" because i literally do not know
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Okay, so there’s a couple of different things here. You sense that these wants aren’t good enough. Why? You’re probably conflicted about something, which parts of you are in conflict and how do their needs differ? When you’re all aligned, it should feel more of a hell yeah thing.
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And even when your whole body, mind and soul scream hell yeah together, this still doesn’t guarantee that you won’t fuck up. There is never such guarantee. But the only way to find better wants in this situation is to follow the best ones you have and see where they fall short.
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This is exactly what’s supposed to be happening :) You pursue object-level wants and the world responds with new information that modifies those wants. They’re all already good enough—but that doesn’t mean they’re supposed to get fulfilled
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Even this example of trying to win back a married ex-girlfriend, apparently obviously unethical, could teach you something about yourself if you vividly imagined actually pursuing it
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