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QC (in Berlin 7/29-???)
@QiaochuYuan
one of my best friends in college had what you might call serious issues (i never got deets but completely-estranged-from-dad level) and she told me “if i waited until i was fine to date i’d never date” she married one of my fraternity brothers and they have 3 kids now
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@tishray
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If you know you have serious issues to work through, then you should probably avoid relationships. Whether you believe it or not, It is your responsibility to not break people just because you are broken.
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@maybegray
yeah it’s one thing to like wait a bit after a breakup to put yourself out there again and it’s another to be like “I’ll date when I’m the god damn Buddha.”
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@maybegray
I’ve dated a lot and I am super dark and twisty on the inside and I really don’t believe any of my brokenness has ever done anything even remotely close to breaking anyone else
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@maybegray
it’s weird bc the level of personal responsibility she advocates, if she afforded it to others, would obv create the space to trust other ppl when they say they can take care of themselves and they want to be with you while you heal that’s there fuckn call now, innit?
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@maybegray
seems a little extra to take the position that only you know what a dumpster fire you really are and that it’s very noble to withdraw completely because everyone is so fragile that clearly no one could possibly handle *you*
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