one of my best friends in college had what you might call serious issues (i never got deets but completely-estranged-from-dad level) and she told me “if i waited until i was fine to date i’d never date”
she married one of my fraternity brothers and they have 3 kids now
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It's funny (NB: not actually funny) that people think that one's emotional being is something to be "worked through", or that people who have experienced trauma can't thrive in relationships, it's actually kinda horrible thinking.
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This completely depends on what's meant by "serious issues." Sounds like OP was taking about something like anger issues that make you more likely to hurt other people, they didn't mean to have no conflicts or problems. It's whether you're physically dangerous.
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I think it is about thinking vectors instead of scalar. There are issues that will never be fine. But you need ... hope and perspective that some things get better? And healthy coping mechanisms for things that never will?
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It's a silly take (and unsurprisingly from someone I muted). It IS a mistake to expect a relationship to fix your own issues but merely having issues yourself doesn't at all preclude a successful relationship.
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There’s a lot of wisdom in the recognition here, but less so in the prescription.
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Especially given the fact that anyone who can read this, recognize it may apply to them, and take it seriously… is pretty much by definition not the core demographic that it would apply to anyway.
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