does the buddhist practice of non-attachment in service of awakening, apply to your husband/wife as well?
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people use “attachment” to mean like at least 3 different things here or more, there’s a real lack of more precise terminology, and that’s before getting into the subtleties of translating pali or whatever
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what three things? if u could name em
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so in the buddhist context i feel like people can either use it to refer to more like clinging / grasping / craving (tanha?) or sometimes use it to refer to all strong desires or something (not a fan of this second usage)
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in the relationship context it depends on how much attachment theory you’re familiar with i guess, you could use it to refer informally to strong desire, or to clinging / grasping / craving, or just to the normal activation of the attachment system. so that’s like 3-5 meanings
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it is probably healthy to learn how to integrate / dissolve tanha in a relationship context much like any other context, and i think that’s quite different from like, trying to dismantle the attachment system, or trying to avoid strong desires for others
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thank you for clarifying! that was a very good explanation 😌 i agree with u
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thanks for prodding me to clarify, i realize that not listing the meanings i had in mind was not super useful 😅